When surrendering isn't an option
There's a lot of talk about surrender and the positive aspect of it.
Surrendering to keep the peace.
Surrendering to controlling everything.
Surrendering to being right about everything.
This is the good side of surrender but I want to offer you an alternative and shake things up a little.
Surrender, by definition, is to give up.
To yield to a greater force.
To compromise to keep the peace.
But when does surrender become a habit?
Every time you're met with a seemingly more powerful situation or individual, the default is to roll over and submit.
Yeah, that's cute if you're a lap dog and you want your tummy rubbing but in human terms, it's not as endearing.
Last week, I had an interesting conversion with a friend about age.
Too old to wear those heels.
Too old to go to that gig.
Too old to have friends in their early twenties.
For a split second, I surrendered to those ideas.
"Oh yes, I'm far too old to be doing THAT."
I was surrendering to the worldly view that a woman has to be young to be attractive, interesting and worthy.
Are you fricken kidding me?!
Who made up the rules?
Who decided that I had to submit to that ideal?
Who decides how I live my life?
Certainly not the mainstream media and society.
(This is not a feminist rant BTW... it goes deeper than that.)
It's about surrendering to things that seem bigger than you because it's the "way things are."
Who makes the rules?
Ask yourself that for a second.
When you surrender, you're supporting the way things are.
When you submit to another human, you're reinforcing the status quo.
When you decide to keep quiet, you're voting with your silence.
Every day, we have a thousand choices.
In each of these moments, we're surrendering and supporting things with our words and actions.
We're conditioned to not question things.
Keep the peace and stay quiet.
Who says we can't own our power (and our age!) and only allow others into our world who are happy with the reality we're creating?
Who says we can't create OUR OWN REALITY of how we want to live?
What you allow, endures and what you surrender to becomes your reality.
Choose what you surrender to.