When surrendering isn't an option

There's a lot of talk about surrender and the positive aspect of it.

Surrendering to keep the peace. 
Surrendering to controlling everything.
Surrendering to being right about everything.

This is the good side of surrender but I want to offer you an alternative and shake things up a little.

Surrender, by definition, is to give up. 

To yield to a greater force. 
To compromise to keep the peace. 
To submit.

But when does surrender become a habit? 

Every time you're met with a seemingly more powerful situation or individual, the default is to roll over and submit.

Yeah, that's cute if you're a lap dog and you want your tummy rubbing but in human terms, it's not as endearing.

Last week, I had an interesting conversion with a friend about age.

Too old to wear those heels.
Too old to go to that gig. 
Too old to have friends in their early twenties.

For a split second, I surrendered to those ideas.

"Oh yes, I'm far too old to be doing THAT."

I was surrendering to the worldly view that a woman has to be young to be attractive, interesting and worthy.

Are you fricken kidding me?!

Who made up the rules? 
Who decided that I had to submit to that ideal?
Who decides how I live my life?

Certainly not the mainstream media and society.

(This is not a feminist rant BTW... it goes deeper than that.)

It's about surrendering to things that seem bigger than you because it's the "way things are."

Who makes the rules?

Ask yourself that for a second.

When you surrender, you're supporting the way things are.
When you submit to another human, you're reinforcing the status quo.
When you decide to keep quiet, you're voting with your silence.

Every day, we have a thousand choices.

In each of these moments, we're surrendering and supporting things with our words and actions. 

We're conditioned to not question things. 
Keep the peace and stay quiet.

Who says we can't own our power (and our age!) and only allow others into our world who are happy with the reality we're creating?

Who says we can't create OUR OWN REALITY of how we want to live?

What you allow, endures and what you surrender to becomes your reality.

Choose what you surrender to.

For the women who want it all

Be the lighthouse

I hear your internal scream when you want it all and you seemingly can't have it.

You want to be pinned down in the bedroom, not in life.

You want your ultimate freedom but with an anchor to grab hold of in a storm.

You want to be impressed by a person's character more than their stuff.

You want to feel free and wanted all at the same time.

You want to hear "yes, do it" and the follow up of real support from your cheerleaders.

You want the mind games to stop and the truth be more powerful than a fuck boy text message.

You want to feel protected and yet walk alone.

You want your own space, time and energy and for it never to be taken.

You want to receive without being put upon.

You want gentle and tender then uncontrollable passion.

You want to lead and also be lead.

You want your wayward spiritual practice to be treated with respect as much as an organized religion.

You want to follow the rhythm of the moon and the stars not the Industrial Revolution 9-5 working hours.

You want every day to feel like a holiday not a two week window of fun and freedom.

You want your soul sisters and brothers to ease you through your pain not recommend you pop a pill.

You want to be open and vulnerable without it being called "drama".

You want to be strong and capable without the stigma of being a hard woman.

You want your body to be a weapon of creation not an object of constant temptation.

You want to wear pink and black and leather and lace and heels and army boots.

You want to be seen and heard without screaming with your appearance and your vibe to do the work.

You want to smile at a guy and for him to accept it as an invitation not a done deal.

You want the noise to stop but the energy and buzz of life to endlessly run through you.

You want it ALL.

You know the world to be different and you know deep down you can have that.

You know that your reality can be created in the blink of an eye.

You know you hold all the cards in life and no-one can take them.

You know you're worth more and you're going after it.

You know that one decision is all it takes.

You are here for an experience not just a life.

You are here to desire what the hell you want.

You are here to be loved by you.

You are here to create.

You are fucking awesome.

The FIVE ways you can get out of your own way and reinvented yourself — Part 2 of 2.

The FIVE ways you can get out of your own way and reinvented yourself — Part 2 of 2.

So, last time, I gave you a little bit of realness with the five mistakes you’re probably making that’s holding you back from releasing your potential.

It breaks my heart to see so many people not reaching their full potential and holding themselves back.

Today, we’re gonna start you on a new path of reinvention.

Here are the FIVE ways I got out of my own way and reinvented myself.

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The FIVE things you’re doing to mess up your potential

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There are plenty of people out there who aren’t choosing to live up to their full potential.

It breaks my heart to watch from the sidelines. I just want to jump in and help them but I can’t.

That’s because they’re making these same mistakes over and over again.

I’ve made these mistakes too but my word, I’ve learnt from them. And I keep on learning them. Especially number five. 

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